you've done nothing wrong

January 19, 2024

Hi there! 🙂

Something amazingly awesome is going to happen in your life today!

Can you feel it?

While I was reading Thank and Grow Rich by Pam Grout awhile back, I took her suggestion and started saying to myself every morning, "Something amazingly awesome is going to happen to me today!"

Saying this every day keeps me open to all of the wonderful surprises that life wants to bring me.

You can try it out right now if you'd like.

Stay curious about the gifts that life wants to give you today.

Now, onto the topic of today's letter...

I've been reading The Universe Always Has a Plan by Matt Kahn, and he teaches 10 golden rules to help you surrender to life's plan for your highest good.

Chapter 1 of his book is titled "Golden Rule #1: You've Done Nothing Wrong".

How much guilt and regret are you holding onto from things you've said or done in the past?

Any time you look back at a circumstance in your past and cringe when you think about how you acted or reacted, you are serving yourself another heaping plateful of blame and guilt that keeps you stuck in the past.

What if you could adopt the idea that you've done nothing wrong?

How does that feel inside your body when you think that thought?

Do you feel relaxed, light, and free?

How does it feel to know that you could never do anything wrong?

No matter what choices you've made in the past or what choices you'll make in the future, you can't possibly do anything wrong.

You can't screw any of this up.

You know why?

Because your choices were exactly the choices that needed to be made in order for you to be the expanded version of you that you are today.

And even if your choices seemed to harm someone else-

#1- None of us can actually be harmed as spiritual beings having this human experience and

#2- Your choices have helped others become exactly who they were meant to be

I think back to all the times that I blamed other people for harming me in some way, and in every single instance, I grew tremendously from those experiences.

I would never want to change anything about my past, because I wouldn't be the beautiful butterfly that I am now without every single one of those transformative experiences.

Every person who has experienced any of your actions has grown and evolved as a result.

Everything has happened exactly as it was meant to happen.

Stop making yourself wrong for your past choices and let others off the hook for the choices that they've made.

Whether it looks like it or not, we're all doing the best that we can given our current perspective in life.

People in your past were doing the best that they could with the awareness that they had at the time.

Even if you're not ready to forgive someone else for their actions, that's okay.

For now, can you let yourself off the hook for anything you think you did wrong that actually contributed greatly to the expansion of others (and to your own expansion)?

We're all here on this earth to love and be loved, and you can allow the choices and experiences of your life to open you up to greater levels of love for yourself and others by letting it all be okay (even your feelings of sadness, betrayal, and anger).

We take life so seriously when life is really meant to be a game that we play with new levels and new, exciting challenges.

You can't lose the game of life, because you're always leveling up.

You're always stepping into a more exciting version of yourself.

If you can accept the fact that you've done nothing wrong, think about the freedom you could experience right now in this moment.

Think about the greatness that you could embody if you would stop beating yourself over the head with guilt and regret.

I'm inviting you to this new level of freedom and greatness today.

Come fly free with me. 🦋

Much love to you,


P.s. You can find Matt Kahn's book here.

If you would like to create a life that excites and delights you, you can buy my book Celebrating Your Life here.

If you missed my letter Try Something New, you can read it here.

You can read my next letter It Is Done here.

  • That post is so healing. Giving up the self blame It is a huge step in our own liberation.
    My favorite thing to say is “everything works in my favor.” I may not see it at the moment but eventually I will. Much love. ❤️

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