What is Your Upper Limit?

Good morning! Did you see that my book was published on Amazon on Tuesday? 🎉🎉🎉

It has been a very exciting week with a huge wave of relief as my book is spreading love and joy around the world already. ❤️

Now Chad and I can pour our extra time and energy into creating our signature relationship course called "30 Days to Set Your Relationship on Fire 🔥"

This course will be amazing for anyone whether you are in a relationship or not, because we'll be starting with topics like self-love and self-care which are so important no matter what your relationship status is.

We are going to show you what's possible inside a relationship so that you can create your own amazing relationships- not only with other people but most importantly with yourself. 💜

That course will release later this summer. Stay tuned!

In Modern Mentor, Kathleen has been talking with us about our upper limit.

Years ago, I read the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks that Kathleen has been referencing as she's been encouraging us to become aware of our upper limit.

What is an upper limit?

An upper limit is the amount of love and happiness that you allow yourself to experience in each area of your life.

Maybe you notice that you only allow yourself to feel a certain amount of happiness before you start feeling guilty about being happy.

I noticed this when Chad and I were dating.

After a few months of dating and feeling like I was on top of the world, I told Chad that I felt like God was telling me that I needed to take time away from the relationship to spend more time with Him.

I didn't think that God wanted me to be that happy since I was an unworthy sinner after all. 🤪

What I realize now is that I had hit my upper limit.

I was feeling so much love from Chad, and it was more than I could handle.

We took a break for a few months and then I was ready to be happy again. 😂

Where have you sabotaged happiness in your own life because you unconsciously believe(d) that you're not allowed to be outrageously happy?

Often, we'll notice that we're hitting our upper limit when something really amazing happens in one area of our lives (in our finances, relationships, business, health, etc.) so we feel the need to create some turbulence in another area of our lives so that we don't experience "too much" happiness.

That damn happiness! 😆

We all do this.

Every single one of us.

The good news is- you can definitely expand your ability to experience more love and happiness bit by bit.

How?

By appreciating the things that you love about your life and by allowing yourself to find joy in the little moments of life.

The more you allow yourself to give into the small (or big) moments of happiness throughout your day, the more you'll be used to experiencing happiness so you won't be so quick to put an end to it.

I have gotten better and better at noticing when I am "upper limiting" myself so that I can just surrender to the good feelings and not try to fight happiness.

I encourage you to simply become aware of all the ways in which you limit the love and happiness in your life (the times you feel guilty) and just say "Interesting" every time you notice your upper limit.

Then you can lean into those moments of love and joy throughout your day to stretch and expand your ability to experience more and more happiness. 🌟

Thank you so much to everyone who has already purchased my book! 😀

I hope you can feel all the love and joy that I put into it! ❤️

Much love to you,

Amber

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If you want to learn more about how you may be upper limiting yourself and how to stop it, you can buy The Big Leap here.

If you missed my letter about Letting Go of Control, you can read it here.

You can read my next letter 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Life here.

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