Happy Friday! Are you ready to have the best day of your life?
I love to enter each new day believing that it's going to be the best day of my life so far!
Life might surprise you! 😀
I have been shifting and changing so many of my limiting beliefs during my first week in the Modern Mentor program.
Mind blown! 🤯
One of the beliefs that kept popping up is this belief that I need external validation in order to feel worthy of love.
We are conditioned from a young age to try to earn validation and approval from our parents, our teachers, our friends, our coaches, and our bosses.
Our entire lives can be consumed by our need to get external validation from the people around us, and we feel unlovable when we don't receive it.
If you are aware that you are constantly trying to perform for other people's validation and approval, be kind and loving with yourself.
You have been trained to live your life in the pursuit of other people's love and acceptance, and you are now ready to free yourself from this bondage.
Freedom starts with forgiveness, so we need to start by forgiving ourselves.
You can place a hand over your heart and say this out loud or silently to yourself:
"[Your name], I forgive you for looking for love and validation in all the wrong places. You don't have to perform to try to earn love anymore. You are lovable exactly as you are, and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you. I love you, and I think you're amazing!"
Speaking to yourself with love and being your own best cheerleader every single day is the quickest way to release your need for anyone else's approval.
You've got you, and that's all that really matters!
Relationships will come and go in your life, and the people closest to you won't always be there to give you the love that you need.
Other people are going to let you down in one way or another, but that's okay!
They are living their own lives doing the best that they can in whatever situations they are going through.
You don't need their constant love and attention.
You can give yourself the love that you crave by talking to yourself and encouraging yourself throughout the day.
Be your own best friend.
Say to yourself, "I believe in you!"
It might feel awkward to talk to yourself in this way at first, but it will become easier and easier over time.
As you give this love and support to yourself, you'll notice more love and support coming from others.
When you no longer need external validation, that's when you'll receive it.
Loving you and doing what you would love to do are sure ways to have the best day of your life! 🎉
Will you commit to being your own best friend and biggest cheerleader?
I love you, I love this journey that we're on together, and I'm sending you a big hug. 🤗
Much love to you,
Amber
P.s. If you missed my letter Measure of Success, you can read it here.
You can read my next letter Choosing Heaven or Hell here.
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